Under no circumstances should dominants work out any real-life resentments with their partner while engaging in erotic spanking. To make sure everything is 100-percent safe, you should only enter into such situations if your relationship is in a rock-solid place.

5. Agree on a safe word.

While erotic spanking is on the lighter side of BDSM activities, it’s always advisable to set a safe word in case things go over acceptable limits. For the spankee, having their “stop!”s and pleas for mercy being ignored may be a big part of the fun. An unrelated safe word enables the spankee to scream “stop!” without literally saying it. By using an incongruous word-like raddish or Winklevoss or intervention!-the spanker will know to cease their ministrations.

6. Consider bruising.

Some people relish the thought of coming away from an erotic spanking session with some battle scars. Others might be bashful about flaunting a black-and-blue tush in their gym’s locker room. As part of your prep, discuss the location and severity of the sort of marks you’re comfortable with. That severity can be impacted by the force with which a spank lands, the area of the spanking surface, and whether you’ve got any blood thinners (like Aspirin) or vasodilators (alcohol’s a common one) in your system.

7. Take a position.

Choose a stance that is comfortable for you both. The more comfortable and relaxed the sub is, the better and longer they’ll be able to withstand spanks. Traditional positions include over the knee, on all fours, or lying down. All three allow for a dom to start off gently while also enabling the option for more forceful swings, if the need arises.

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